Orlando.

Orlando.

Unless you’ve been out of the country, on an introspective social media fast, or under a rock you’re well aware of the devastating nightclub shooting that took place on June 12th, 2016 in Orlando, Florida. A blood bath where fifty people suddenly were ripped away from their friends, family, and loved ones. As a Christian, my motivation for this blog post is not to address gun issues, terrorism, gay rights, Muslims, and so on.  Today, I am writing about what I believe the justice and judgment of God to be and how we as Christian’s are mandated to represent Christ in situations where there is injustice. As much as there were ministries and Christians who responded with care and aid, I honestly was sickened by seeing well meaning Christians using this opportunity of tragedy to chime in their political and religious opinions. There were many that used it as a soap box platform for gun rights, stricter anti-terrorism laws and bashing the president. The worst of these misguided rants, however, were those who called it God’s judgment against sin in the LGBT community. John 3:17 NIV  For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him. This verse that comes after the famous John 3:16 – one of the few scriptures people memorize – sets the stage for Jesus and His plan of redemption. This plan was not to condemn the world but save it through Him. When we encounter the love of Christ we are adopted. We are no longer strangers or orphans, but we belong to...
Did I Choose to be Gay?

Did I Choose to be Gay?

That afternoon when I was seventeen still stands out as a marker in my mind so clearly. It was the day I finally spoke with my father about coming out as a lesbian. Soberly, I walked into the room where he was sitting quietly on the couch. After our awkward interaction, in which I disclosed that I was a lesbian, he asked me if I wanted help. I had no confidence in his ability to help me and was completely disconnect from God, so I rejected the offer. I go into depth further about my journey in my book The God of My Parents and other blog posts you can read here and here. However, in this blog, I’d like to talk about how certain verbiage that is thrown around by Christians in order to be effective in reaching the gay community is actually very damaging. I will be writing about the concept of choice. To choose something you need to first see another option. During the time in my life when I came out to my dad, due to my disconnected and false understanding of God, I lived a desperately lonely and isolated existence. I was starving for affection and affirmation and had been for some time. I began to attempt to meet these needs, these deep longings for affirmation, validation and emotional safety through romantic relationships with women. But did I choose to be gay? This is a question I hear from many well meaning Christians when trying to communicate the truth of the gospel. I experienced substantial deficits in my life but while I very much had...