Sex & Marriage

Sex & Marriage

“Write what you know.” ― Mark Twain Most of our friends know that my husband and I didn’t start our marriage off in a blissful state of romance. We most definitely weren’t “that couple” who spent their first years of marriage gazing into each other’s eyes while gushing over love notes and feeding each other chocolate on special love getaways. Well, maybe we ate a lot of chocolate back then, but it was more of a coping mechanism than a sign of affection. So we get it. We get what it’s like to start off and continue in a very difficult marriage. We understand what it is like to strive to stay committed in a relationship that, at times, was not only disconnected but very toxic. Andy and I brought our own damaged viewpoints and perceptions of what marriage should be when we were married eleven years ago. The process in which God brought radical healing to our marriage is too lengthy to go into here, but I can say that we have complete faith for any marriage to experience restoration producing close connection. The purpose of our lives is to experience a beautifully meshed communion with Jesus. This relationship is at the core of who we are and why we were created by Him. The lie that comes against this purpose is that we are obedient slaves living under the law and not sons and daughters of God. Furthermore, this lie states that, our actions dictate our right standing with God. That we can approach God because we behaviored our way into relationship with Him. Well, that’s religion....
Family Identity

Family Identity

The only way to truly watch the show Parenthood is with a pint of Cherry Garcia flavored Ben & Jerry’s Ice Cream. I’m just sayin. If you want the full experience, have comfort food nearby. You’re gonna have a good cry at least once an episode. Last week I needed a bit of a break from it all. I found myself needing a show that I could watch for a bit of “zone out” time. I’m not one that’s prone to take a break. My breaks are usually completing projects that are lower on the priority list. Yeah I know, it drives my husband crazy. However, after a very busy month, and with a clearing in my schedule, I did the difficult task of doing nothing for part of the day while fully engaged with this show. Maybe the fact that it takes place back in California where I grew up, or the fact that the characters remind me so much of the typical Northern Californian family (relational, down to earth, funny), but there is such an appeal to the flow of family that this show demonstrates. I think mostly I admire the characters being unconditionally present for each other through the good and bad times. The family connection of the Braverman family is the priority and it is protected at all costs. And although the family are not believers, there are some positive aspects found in it all. As I watched it reminded me of the good God has done in my life regarding family and identity. Ultimately, however, as much as I love watching the Braverman family...